New to this Community seeking advice

[MichelleLT]

How about you counter by asking for the next holiday?

The only way to approach changing things up would be to say that you know you said okay, but you really miss the kids and want to spend Christmas with the boys. Is there a way you could get them earlier, or at least drive up there a couple days earlier and see everyone for Christmas?

How she reacts to that is hard for me to predict. You might have a better guess.

Asking for the next holiday would give her more time to plan. But it's a trade off cuz Christmas is such a big holiday for most of us.

Maybe approach it this way: you had the kids the last two Christmas's, I really want to spend some holidays with them and I miss the family/kids.