Hi Coach,

Just read through your post. There are quite a few differences between your situation and mine and was hoping to get your view.

It seems my W doesn't even want to be friends. I don't know why??? I said to her on Sunday night that I wanted to still be friends with her, but all she said was that we won't be doing anything together unless it involves our son, so I don't know how I can show here that I have changed. SHe won't speak to me unless she has to.

Just a quick re-cap on our sitch:
we seperated for a week about 18 months ago. In the last 18 months, we have been trying to build a house, her father was diagnosed with cancer and lost his battle about 5 months ago. She had an abortion about 2 years ago and her reasons was that she didn't want to bring a child into the world when we had an unhealthy relationship, even though she didn't tell me this at the time. Her excuse was that it wasn't the right time as we were living with her parents during the building process)

We seperated again about 2 months ago as she needed to deal with her issues and couldn't while I was around, so I moved out. I didn't pressure until about 3 weeks ago. She asked me to go to councilling with her where she dropped the bomb. I have been given every reason under the sun why she doesn't want to be with me and that she has been unhappy for years.