I agree with what you stated, I also believe he has a form of PTSD as does my Psychiatrist (based on what I told her)however like your W he doesn't want to confront it and since I have learned I can't control him, there isn't anything I can do about it until he faces it head-on.
If I could wave my magic wand and make everything all better, I would however my wand is in the shop this week.
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~