First Piecing Thread

[Hope4us]

Hey, thanks guys. I hope your Thanksgiving day was all you want it to be.

We continue to move forward. Had some hiccups in the last couple weeks and work through them. And W continues to give me little hints at things she's had problems with in the past that I never knew bothered her, but now I will make sure don't happen.

Like just the other day, we were discussing my 30 yr H.S. reunion that was last Saturday. We didn't go, but in our discussion W made a comment that if we did go "we'll get there and you'll run off and talk to your friends and I'll be left sitting there with no one to talk to". I told her I wouldn't do that again, and that I never realized I was leaving her hanging and that must make her feel like she didn't matter when I did that stuff. She looked at me and just kind of nodded. So this weekend is the perfect opportunity to show her I get it now. My work Christmas party is Friday and hers is Saturday. I know quite a few people she works with and in the past I'd have probably been off to talk with them without paying much attention to her. Not this time. Won't make that mistake again.

Now why didn't she just tell me that before? I'm a guy. If you don't tell us something is wrong, how do we know? Well, now I do know.

The other hiccup was I've been noticing lately that W never initiated the "I love you's". it was always me with her returning it. So the other night we were sitting on the couch and I was going to head up to bed and told her "I love you" and she made some joke. I stopped and told her what I'd noticed and that right now, I NEED her to tell me that without me saying it first. She said "I didn't know we were keeping score". I told her I wasn't keeping score, but that it is something I NEED given what's gone on the last couple years. I added that I wasn't trying to rub anything in or trying to be needy, but it's something I was lacking getting from her even prior to this mess. She said "You know I love you". I said "I believe you, but that doesn't mean I don't need to hear it from you and when you only say it in reply to me saying it, it feels forced". She said she'd work on it and since then, it's been fairly regular and with meaning, which makes me feel good.

Just a couple of examples where if you listen, really listen, it can make a world of difference.

We had a very nice T-giving. Just W, the boys and I. Too much food. W cooked a great meal and I helped when she asked but didn't get in the way. And it was good. Flirted the whole time.

Friday, S21 and I went to a football game at his school and W was TM'ing me like crazy. A whole bunch of "I Love you's", etc. And when I got home, we had a really good night.... .

Saturday we did some shopping and yesterday laid around watching football.

All in all it was a very nice weekend.

Talk to ya all later.