Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
SadGirl - can they take child support out of his check initially? I have seen many good intended parents start w/paying each other, then paying the courts, then having it garnished, etc... You could save yourself some attorney fees and headache if you just handle that up front.
Good job, btw!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
Once he told me he was changing banks, I knew I had to do something to guarantee he paid. I don't trust him to pay. I started out thinking he would never to anything to screw over the kids, but now I'm not so sure...
Once he told me he was changing banks, I knew I had to do something to guarantee he paid. I don't trust him to pay. I started out thinking he would never to anything to screw over the kids, but now I'm not so sure...
When it comes to divorce, it never pays to be too careful. It's an adversarial system (as PDT says, that's why there is a "v." between your name and his), and your husband will be looking out for his own interests if he has half an ounce of brains.
Plus, you have kids to be concerned about; if not for yourself, go to the mat for them. They deserve to have at least one parent that will be there for them, and you cannot count on it being your husband.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
your husband will be looking out for his own interests if he has half an ounce of brains.
This may be true, but never in a million years would I peg him as a guy who wouldn't willingly take care of his kids. I still feel like he will, but I guess I have to be prepared in case he doesn't.
your husband will be looking out for his own interests if he has half an ounce of brains.
This may be true, but never in a million years would I peg him as a guy who wouldn't willingly take care of his kids. I still feel like he will, but I guess I have to be prepared in case he doesn't.
It depends on what kind of a lawyer he ends up with. And yeah, you should prepare for the worst (but hope for the best).
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
Yesterday my D11 said to me...Suzy's mom and dad are good friends after divorce, why aren't you and dad?
This is the kind of thing that causes bad feelings. Call me crazy, but I really don't want much from him other than my kids and the support that they are entitled to.
Yesterday my D11 said to me...Suzy's mom and dad are good friends after divorce, why aren't you and dad?
Because both of you are hurting right now. Maybe when you each have healed, you may be able to be friends again.
Originally Posted By: Sad Girl
This is the kind of thing that causes bad feelings. Call me crazy, but I really don't want much from him other than my kids and the support that they are entitled to.
And there's nothing wrong with that.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
Maybe things will even turn around again once the tension dies down. Who knows.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
