Move over... I 'm moving back......

[sandycay]

Thanks Addie,


Well the weekend was interesting. I had the opportunity to meet up with a friend and made some new ones. The friend is someone I met while I was seperated the first time towards the end.

We ran a few times together and had dinner a few times back then. I realized at that point this was not a good idea and I was using it as a crutch to make myself feel better. So I stopped contact.

Anyway, met with friend Sat. night at a local Irish pub and was introduced to his best friend from middle school and his wife. It was a nice time and the wife and I got along so well. I think we will probably do some runs together (the wife). It was nice to catch up with this guy as he is simply fun, has a lot of the same interest and no pressure.
He says he wants to run with me someday soon ... so we will see.

I read the book BBJ suggested He just not that into you. Wow, I am so glad I read this. As I enter this new phase it was good reading. BTW- he text me on the way home and ask me to text him and let me know I made it and said the his friends liked me very much. Very nice.

Plus, he called yesterday. Of course, I let it go to VM as I was busy with my kiddos and just sent him a text regarding his call much later.


The kids & I decorated the outside of the house on Sat. It was emotional for all of us. The kids cried... they fought and I had a break down. We kept coming inside to regroup and then we would try again. I learned I can throw an extension ladder across the garage to get my kids attention when they are going at it. LOL

They spent the night with their dad on sat night and were gone all of 43 mins before I got the 1st text saying they wanted to come home. There was some drama there. Hopefully H and I can work together to help the kids thru this. I think the most imporatant thing I can do right now is "rise above" the anger that I have towards H. I know this is the phase I am in but I can't stay there. Its counter-productive for everyone.

I've offered H to come to the house one night a week and cook dinner with the kids and hang out. H is spending so much money taking them out every week..it's crazy. Plus I can now use that time to join the local running club for one of their runs as it's in the evening. So, I won't have to see H and the kids will see that I am forgiving and this is an olive branch I can extend to him until he gets proper housing (or the flippin boat) to live in. He is putting that off until the D is final so since he honored that request and show him the same by letting him use the house for a night during the week. He stays to far away to take the kids to his hotel effiency and come back and forth with all their weekday sports activities.

I am preparing financial documents for our L appt in mid Dec.