Take it from a failed DB'er -- if her parent is passing beyond this earthly vale, don't fail to "be there" whenever and wherever and whatever the cost may be to you in psycho-emotional-sexual frustration. MLC? Death of a parent is a recurring variable, especially in women's MLC.
WAW's mother gave up the ghost with Smiley's Person just 6 weeks physically in CONUS but mentally still in the AO, and there was not dam thing coming from me in the way of support, comfort, or even sympathy. Yo, people die every day, dawg -- whoa! is that an IED by the side of American Interstate? Hang on!
5-1/2 years later, when she's really pissed and really lets her guard down, that's what comes out, sharp as an ice pick to the eye. No free pass, even for the warrior.
Look. The worst vice is advice, so I'll just put it this way -- having done it for lo these 2,000 days, let me borrow some inspiration from Paul Robeson -- nossuh! You do not want to tote dat barge or lif' dat bale!