I agree. It is a perpetuating cycle. I plan on dropping the bomb a week from today. I am in a good place right now. I know my wife is not. I don't care anymore(at least for now). But I have worked through all the finances. I plan on offering to buy her out of the house. I have listed all our assests. I am ready to move forward. In a way, I am glad the wife took my sons to dinner with her exboyfriend. Whether there was anything physical that ever happened or not, it doesn't matter. It was enough to feel that was the most disrespectful thing she could do to me. She spit in my face. For her to not think it would affect me that much, makes it worse. Regardless of her apologies, it was enough to put me over the edge and be ok with moving on. There was a line in my mind, she stepped 20 feet past it. I am going on day 5 of being happy that I am past it. Hopefully it will continue and I can just focus on my sons and trying to help them through this. I had to save myself before I can save them. I believe I just accomplished saving myself....
Remarried 6 mo S 12 S 13 S 16 SD 12 SD 16 SD 17 SS 19
