Thinker, I've been reading your thread on and off so I maybe out of line here but, if you can be strong enough and comfort and support her thru this, you could "use" it as an opportunity for a break. Sometimes life gives us a push (hard one), if we get stuck on DB principles and motos we may miss our chance. Every case here is similar but so very differentat the same time. One of the worst things a man can do to his woman is "leave her alone" according to a great book I read (How to imporve your M without talking about it), it says it is actually THE worst thing you can do.
Apart from your M, it's the right thing to do when any person in our lives go thru this. I know I hold a HUGE resnetment when H failed to support me when my dad was fighting cancer last year, it made him look small in my eyes although I didnt request his support to trick him to reconcile with me. I thought it was the natural thing to turn to him after knowing my dad for so many years...
I know you need to protect yourself but maybe, just maybe, once more, you need to overcome yourself and do what feels to me as honorable. Good Luck K
