Post on 11/27/09 06:34 PM-Shows you are still focused on her...you don't Hope she gets help.....You hope to be stronger yourself
Post on 11/28/09 10:22 AM-You think that you were helpful and considerate (also validating)....my take was you were more condescending and a backlash from wife would soon come
(I was going to reply, but really haven't been on the site since reading that post to today)
Post on 11/28/09 02:14 PM-Backlash...be lucky it was by text or it would have been much worse. You keep trying to tell her she has a problem....until you give her the space to realize it on her own...she will continue her actions
Post on 11/28/09 10:17 PM-Backlash at your daughter because you keep insinuating that mom has a problem...which she passes on to her mother...which ticks mother off more resulting in her anger being taken out on your daughter
Post on 11/28/09 10:17 PM-More of the same...you and your daughter are trapping your wife in a corner by repeatedly implying she has a problem...she won't get to the solution until she does it herself
Post on Today at 11:46 AM-No surprise....your wife will say anything to get you to do what she has asked....which is leave her alone and give her space!
How do you get out of the chaos? Simple....get away from the situation which you still haven't achieved. You continue to focus on your wife, her problem, and now the kids are involved making the situation worse. Until people accept they have a problem....no amount of brow beating will make them think otherwise.
As far as your daughter...watch the movie Thirteen.....and oh yes that is how things are. I agree with mindfull...focus on setting boundaries for your daughter even if that means she moves in with you. Forget about your wife...there are more important things that need to be dealt with at the moment. You do that and that would be a huge 180 for you.
