He spent TG alone, and now he'll be alone on Christmas. It's heartbreaking...
At the same time he is reaping the results of choices he is choosing to make. I don't know that I will ever understand the WAS.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I spoke to an attorney this morning. She said I could either file an order for child support with the attorney general's office, or I could file for divorce myself and get temporary orders of support.
My original plan was to assume H would pay child support, but my mother insists I can't trust him. So, I filed the papers with the AG to have the CS attached from his pay.
Should I warn him? I feel sick and scared. Even if we were to reconcile, how could we when I am blindsiding him with something like this. I can hear the I knew I couldn't trust you already...
Should I warn him? I feel sick and scared. Even if we were to reconcile, how could we when I am blindsiding him with something like this. I can hear the I knew I couldn't trust you already...
Says the guy who's not honoring his financial obligation to his kids?
You're doing this to protect yourself and your kids. That's what he needs to hear.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
I don't know if I'd call it "warning" him, but you can let him know what you did and why. Keep it civil and matter-of-fact.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
How about this... H, you said you were getting your own bank account. Because I want to make sure I have access to money for the kids, I filed a case for child support with the AG's office.
How about this... H, you said you were getting your own bank account. Because I want to make sure I have access to money for the kids, I filed a case for child support with the AG's office.
Close... would this work better?
"You said you were going to get your own bank account. I want to make sure that the kids are protected while we work through this, so I filed a case for child support with the AG's office."
If he's already demonstrated a willingness to try to stick you with the financial burden, you can use that as an example.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
