h is in mlc, now threatening divorce...

[praying_in_GA]

Just put it behind you and embrace the Last Resort Technique in DR. Follow it to a T. One of two things will happen. He will either see your changes, become intrigued by them, and start initiating some contact to find out what is up with you. OR he will not care either way and continue to move away from you. Either way you will win. You may get him back and then a whole new phase begins. If not, you will become happier with time. You will find yourself and a life for you and the kids. (The last thing is the most important that could happen throughout the whole process)