P17, thanks so much for answering me - in regards to the address you are correct about the mail forwarding - that was the reason he did it but nevertheless he could have asked me to send it to his work address - I was just surprised because of his paranoia with the PI grin I have no intention to have him followed again...
What you said about a safe place is exactly what my intentions were and are for the last 2 months - the way it was before was no living and no way to move forward - it doesn't mean I have forgotten, I just have to take it from a different angle.I am actually hoping that his change of behaviour is a result of me behaving differently but am not sure. Either way I am trying not to read to much into it blush