He wants to come home....HELP!

[praying_in_GA]

Bim, thank you for reminding me of that.

I have been thinking of our time together and the days before he officially moved back in. The week he called and wanted to come home I was feeling great and knew I was doing DR to the max. I was detaching and happy. He called to come home and I was good for about 36 hours. Then I dissolved into a pile of unattractiveness. I have since become clingy, pushy, insecure, needy....you name it, I have regressed into it.

He asked me last night what books I have read since the separation. I told him a few of them (NOT DR!) and he said he noticed they were all about marriage or husbands. I said yes, that was right. He asked why I didn't read something for me. Well, I don't know, I wanted to fix the relationship. Today I ordered a book on controlling anger.

So, do I go completely back to the week before he moved in? I was not talking to him unless it involved the kids. I didn't call during the day and when he came home to watch them before work I was polite, but avoided him as much as I could. OR can I continue to show him some attention and affection?