I responded to another thread where you were talking about your situation in more detail . . . keep doing that. The book helped me, especially in breaking down my wife's resistance to doing anything (if she hadn't read SSM with me, she would still be convinced that I'm a pervert and we might honestly be filing for divorce by now) but the forum here was much more important to me personally and still is.
Be as honest as you can here and go into detail. If you feel like everyone's against you and no one understands, go ahead and defend yourself, but remember that they're not really against you. And never forget that everyone here is just someone who has similar problems to yours in some way, or someone who has been helped. None of them are therapists and no one who works for Davis or any of her companies seems to post here . . . ever. They're just offering advice because they think it will help you--and because working through your problems helps them work through theirs. They can't force you to do anything and they wouldn't try, so their advice is not threatening. If it makes no sense at all for you, you just decide not to use it.
BUT . . . and it's a big but . . . they've felt some version of the pain you're feeling. They're not going to dismiss your feelings or tell you that what you want isn't important. They're not going to tell you to suck it up and endure no matter what. They're also not going to tell you to cut your losses and divorce him because men are pigs and there's nothing you can do. People here want what you want.
