2a. Oh I fully expect short and trite "to me," where every sentence from her ends with the thought-bubble, "[comma] you a**hole." But on the subject of the kids, where she has expressed "concern" and "absolute interest" and the desire to "always be informed," I found it rather disconcerting.
Come on, you know her limitations. She doesn't know what the hell to say or do about the kids. She feels "concern" and has "absolute interest" as well as guilt and an overwhelming sense of inadequacy (which I submit is the root of most of her dysfunction). This is not to excuse, it is just a matter of fact. She would have no good answers if she were not culpable, seeing as she is, well, she's got less than nothing to contribute. Get it?
