1a. Was surprised to learn that they don't expose themselves that way with her; apparently -- if S10's C is to be believed -- I am Safe Haven, where they can act out (good, bad, and indifferent).
Same sitch here. My kids don't rock the boat with dad. You already know the psychology behind that.
But, recently and as a first, S9 lost it on his dad and it all came flooding out, first time H has seen what I've seen for months.
I think, if at all possible, any communication regarding kid behavior/feelings should be attached to the action you want taken. So, instead of, "I'm worried about X, he's doing/saying Y," it would be, "I would like to make an appointment with Z(child counsleor)" and you let her know what is required of her and schedule etc. If necessary, you expound on why.
