Question--what signs did your WAS give to let you

[dday101798]

Then it takes 18 months to 2 years for them to realize that their relationship with the OW is not a cure-all,

There's script and then there's timelines and this one seems very accurate. My XW has hit all the points all the way along, the 6 month confusion mostly and now we are in the 18 month to two year window and guess what? Life with OM or anyone else, is not what she really wanted afterall, so we are at the point it seems that she needs to drop him once and for all, then straighten her head, although, we've been pretty much zero contact for the last year, so I couldn't tell you how long that would take.