I spent Thanksgiving with my in-laws. We still view each other as such. Bill wasn't there, I don't know if he was invited or not. My sister-in-law said that he would be the one least missed.
Most years we celebrated as a whole family, the kids are all close friends, we always wanted the 'cousins' to be close, to have each other in life. I thanked my sis-in-law for having me. She said I was family. As she talked about the possibility of her brother (my former spouse) contacting her in the future, I later thought.. If that guy only spends an hour infrequently with his kids, his own flesh and blood, what would draw him to be closer to his siblings?
In my time with him, I helped him create a relationship with his brother, maintain relationships with his parents and siblings, be involved with our children. All good things.
Now he's on his own and taking direction from a new emotional confidant. I accept that he loves the kids to the best of his ability, that he did the same with me.
I guess I'm saying that I'm seeing him more for who he is in the present, than in the past. Not bad, just him. Ah well. But aren't I a cute chimichanga!
*hugs*
Oh yes.. and I still flip out over interactions with men if it's anymore than a guy would do with a nun. Bad habit.. huh?
