W is asking if I want to go with her & our S to a "Breakfast with Santa" thing at her work. This is all so uncomfortable. We've always taken him together. I don't really want to hang out with W...especially at her work where I imagine everybody knows what's going on...but I want to be there for my S. I guess I'll go. Meh.
Go and be there for your son.
Don't interact with your wife any more than you have to (but if you do, keep it civil; there's no reason to be the bad guy).
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
Yeah, I'll go. It's just so strange that she even asked me. I'm taking him to a "Santa train" thing this Saturday & the thought of asking W to come along never even crossed my mind.
Me-39 W-31 S-4 Bomb- 9/5/09 Discovered EA- 9/15/09 Found "proof" that EA is most likely a PA- 10/8/09 W moved out 10/31/09
Well, today will be a rough day. It's our 9th anniversary. But this time, it's just another day. No flowers, no cards, no dinner at a nice restaurant. I'm actually doing well with detaching but days like today will always be tough, I suppose.
Me-39 W-31 S-4 Bomb- 9/5/09 Discovered EA- 9/15/09 Found "proof" that EA is most likely a PA- 10/8/09 W moved out 10/31/09
Well, our anniversary came & went yesterday w/o W or I contacting each other. It's been a month since she moved out & I'm getting used to it. There's so much to do around the house (since I'm doing everything myself) that I haven't really had any time to mope around...and that's a good thing.
Now it's just a waiting game, I suppose. Wait until W files for D. I still have no desire to reconcile. Maybe that will change some day but so far it hasn't.
Me-39 W-31 S-4 Bomb- 9/5/09 Discovered EA- 9/15/09 Found "proof" that EA is most likely a PA- 10/8/09 W moved out 10/31/09
Posted by hope4us: "...Give it time dgtal. Country music. Hits me hard. My W hates country music, but OM liked it so all the sudden she's watching CMT and all the country music awards shows. A year and a half later she again cringes when it comes to Country music (no offense to the CM lovers out there)...."
Your situation and mine look very similar. I remember how mad she became when I removed the CMT channel from the satellite (about July 2007) Sorry Im runing behind you guys...Still working on my M. Today is better than yesterday and worse than tomorrow. I can rate my M with a 8 out of 10 points. Progress is very slow. Mostly on the sex part.
Me:52 W:50 M:30 D:19S:27 Discovered EA:08/08 denied W insisted on D+ILYBNILWY:08/08 Exposed wrong OMW:10/08 Found exact OM's ID 2/09 Expose OMW son, not sure OMW knows yet 25 months after still a rollercoaster
Journaling: I had another "date" on Saturday night. Nothing serious but it went really well. First time I've kissed a woman other than my W in about 13 years.
W is still trying to prolong conversations whenever we talk...and still showing a bit more interest in what I'm doing. And I'm still staying dark & not really telling her what I'm up to.
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Me-39 W-31 S-4 Bomb- 9/5/09 Discovered EA- 9/15/09 Found "proof" that EA is most likely a PA- 10/8/09 W moved out 10/31/09
"Companion" is an accurate term. That's all I'm looking for right now. Nothing serious...just someone to hang out with & have fun with...drinks, go see a band...stuff like that. I think it's important for me to get out there & do what makes me happy. It sure beats sitting around the house moping.
I wish you the best. We all need to stay strong...especially with the holidays coming up.
Me-39 W-31 S-4 Bomb- 9/5/09 Discovered EA- 9/15/09 Found "proof" that EA is most likely a PA- 10/8/09 W moved out 10/31/09
