Looks like I might soon be LBS...newcomer here

[brownidmom]

bim,

Hiya, everyone.I am back from CT. Mostly a good trip.

Except for S6 and parts of that let's-go-home scenario and subsequent discussion, it sounds like it was great!

G, you crack me up! Yes, it does sound the opposite of what I said. It is always good to see my MIL though, and my boys are so happy when they get to see their cousins. We have no family in our area.

H tried to bring up the fact that none of his decisions have anything to do with me anymore and that he no longer takes the time to factor me in.

Ouch! Heartless.

Yep. He had even said that he is going to buy a house with a bigger yard for the boys and that whether or not I am there, the decision to buy the house and picking it out and buying it will not involve me. This was after I pointed out that he mishandled the situation back in May when he dropped the bomb "I am not going to put my name on another piece of paper to buy another house with you" on Mother's Day before we were heading out the door to look at it one last time before making an offer. Uh, yeah, passive aggressive, you should have just told me that you didn't want to go anywhere else with me instead of letting me look for the perfect house for almost a full year.

No, I will not move into a house with you when my name is not on the deed so you can just tell me to leave whenever you want. I didn't say this last part, just thought it. It would have become too emotional for me if I started down that path so I just let it go until it becomes a reality.

I simply said that I am aware of his selfishness and have seen many examples of it over the last few years, but that I also know that one day, sooner or later, he would know that his beliefs about me are bull-oney... End of convo- BIM: " I believe and know that you will figure it all out, whether near or from far away isn't the issue anymore. But you will know that you are wrong about many of your beliefs about me and the actions you have taken being a result of your issues, not mine" .And then...I let it go... I have a tendency to get emotional during these conversations and let myself get very upset. I. AM. DONE. WITH. THAT.

BraVO, bim. Standing O for you!

The thing I have realized is that most of what he says, even though he refuses to admit it, is said to upset me, to get a reaction from me. I know because once he is done with anything, there is no more discussion from him at all. He still tries to push my buttons, so I know he still hasn't let go. Yet and still, I am slowly letting go of the outcome and whether or not he still cares. I know you can love someone and still choose to be without them.

Hey, bim: where are you from, anyway (if'n I may inquire)?

We live right outside of Philly.

S6 is still sick, so I am home with him today.