H got peeved over NOTHING yesterday, i think he may have been drinking...told me he would file for divorce if i didnt back off...hes done, cant live like this anymore, he has tried everything to make me happy...
Um...no, not really. He called home, and you laid into him because your D left a message about losing her tooth and he hadn't checked it. He was hunting, yes? When I'm busy with other things, I don't check my messages, I don't even have my phone turned on. And was it such a big deal that YOU should have gotten angry?
Sorry, but I think YOU are the one who blew things out of proportion...and your anger and judgment of your H is palpable through your posts. If I can feel it through the net, your H has been able to feel it for a while. You sound like you're holding on to a lot of anger.
Sorry for the 2x4, but you sound a lot like I used to be with my H. Yes, your H has issues, but you still have more work to do. Back WAY off. Start working on your anger regarding this situation. Drop all expectations and give your H the space to work on himself.
Just imagine...happy H, out hunting, feeling good, calls home to find out his W is pissed b/c he missed a message about a loose tooth. Milestone, yes, but sheesh.
What if you had used the opportunity to share instead of be angry? "Oh H! D tried to call you earlier b/c she lost her first tooth! She was so proud and excited. Can you believe our little girl is growing up so quickly? Would you like to talk to her?"
VERY different tone. No anger.
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
