Ok, she just responded to the e-mail I sent her about our account: You close that account and my attorney will be forced to call your chain of command Do not play games with me you will lose so go ahead and a f with the account and I you will see what happens… I will take the boys to my mother Dec 12 thru Jan 1st and see how you like it I have custody of them NOT you and I say when you can see them. And yes I can be a bitch and I will.
Ok, she has really started to get nasty. What in the world do I write back about this? I would be crushed if she took my boys to her M while I was there. I think I have made a big mistake doing this.
Au contraire, SD. It is she who has made a huge mistake in PUTTING IN WRITING such things as not allowing you to see your own children.
Ordinarily, I would advise not replying, but I think you will want to document a contrast between her antics and your own, calm, reasonable ones, kwim?
Thus:
"Wife,
I'm sorry you feel that way. I am only trying to protect myself, and the kids, considering your recent actions. To be honest, I'm worried about you. In any event, I will continue to meet all of my financial obligations to the family, and would never dream of not doing so. Please stop using such disrespectful language when communicating with me.
SD"
You're in great hands with Greek and Coach -- the BEST, when it comes to these types of situations (legal hardball + fighting for your marriage, but with establishing boundaries). Follow their lead.
