She can't legally do any of that, no way her attorney is telling her to act that way. She knows she can push you around.
Print the e-mail and save it to a disk. She's hanging herself. There is nothing illegal, immoral or unethical with you protecting yourself.
Get some legal advice.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.