Newbie (again)

[dday101798]

Thanks for dropping in Puppy.

I spent the morning driving in thinking of those conditions and dealbreakers, and re-evaluating evertyhing that has transpired in the last few days.

It's without question, she must sever all ties with him. No ifs ands or buts about it and that has always been my stance, so I don't even have to say anything to that regard. As to how long has he been out of the picture? Well, I did point out at dinner that a mark on her ring finger looked like one was pretty freshly removed. She didn't try for one second to deny it and re-itterated what she's said a hundred thousand times before, she just couldn't get serious with him, but he apparently felt otherwise. I know they've had a rocky relatation for probably the duration, seriously, what kind of whole hearted relation can be founded from an A? But that is my main dealbreaker, he must go and be gone, period.

Which brings me to the condition: time. I am not ignorant tot he fact that she has been in his company as late as Saturday night. She says all they did is fight because she has told him time and time again how she feels for me and misses the togetherness of the family they destroyed together. She even went so far as tell me she said everything felt as if it were a MLC, of which I 100% agree. So, that's the main condition, time, take the time to out him once and for all, and make 100% sure she is commited should things go the route of R, which honestly I see no other way this could go. We both know how we feel, and we both know we just simply can't be friends, it would just be far to hard. And we both know that we did in fact make a huge mistake.

After I made my last post last night, she initiated a 2 hour long text exchange. Mainly thanks for the great time we had, and she enjoyed the sense of the togtherness. In the exchange, as at dinner, I said that it's a whole easier and better now that all the MR stuff is just done with, all those problems are over. Everybody's faults are out in the open and there's nothing more that can be said or done about them happening. Point blank, the slate is clean.

So, steps, one at a time steps, and time it's self. We both also have the advantage that we need time to re-establish our own lives, and get ourselves back on our feet too, before anything 'serious' can become.

So, in a nutshell, I guess I'm at the "show me" stage. because she does have to show me, once and for all he is gone, without question. Actually, she messaged me this morning if I was "in trouble" with my cousin (cousin got pretty pissed when I said we were going ot dinner ). I just replied now, no, but if I could ask, are you? We'll see where that goes.