I'm deeply concerned that he may be a narcissist, which would mean that this type of behavior is totally ingrained into him.
Perhaps he could be counselling for that?
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Yes, I could deal with lapses, if that means he is emotionally abusive in a conversation here and there, but no, I can't deal with lapses in the sense that he cheats on me with another woman here and there.
No, I don't think any of us would tolerate that. If he becomes abusive in a conversation that that may not be a choice so much as his personality (I don't know him so I'm throwing that out there) - we all get taken over sometimes. However having another A IS a choice and none of us would put up with that.
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I am also afraid that if I give it another go, things will be great for awhile- long enough for me to get hooked again, and then he'll start to fall into his old ways as subtely as he did the first time.
It's the same in any R though. You don't know who the person is, you're scared, your worried they will leave you etc. etc. You have a track record with him that gives you more suspicion than the rest of us.
That is just something you will need to decide for yourself. Do you take the risk and have your heart broken again, do you move on and find somebody who will treat you the way you want to be treated or do you give him another chance. We all go through this.
Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010
"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient." "Delay is the antidote for anger"
