Yesterday, I was supposed to go out on a date . . .
CAREFUL, Dday. This could just be a reaction on her part to you dating, and all of the emotions surrounding the holidays.
How long has OM been out of the picture? Have you confirmed it? Is your wife willing to be fully transparent with you? What were your conditions/dealbreakers that you were looking for, and is she willing to do them? (sorry; I haven't followed your thread in quite awhile)
Piecing is for when both spouses are fully committed to the reconciliation process, and ready to take the steps necessary.
