Dunno. Never put much thought into the MLC idea, but lately.... Had some convos with an MLC survivor (left-behind, not walkaway), and there sure are some powerful parallels. Got very concerned about the kids today and sent a nice -- not snotty or finger-pointing or anything like that -- email laying out some events and concerns. A one-sentence response completely uninterested in anything I'd said about them.
Maybe she thought it was a mask for me projecting my own feelings? Don't know (and yes AAK, I have a C). But it was weird. I mean, hair on the back of the neck weird. An almost total detachment, but not in the "good" way, you know? Here I'd said that D7 is waking up nights crying and S10 "just knows" that if she gets remarried I will die -- because my father died after my mother remarried, kid logic (he was very ill -- brain thing) -- and D7 announcing it's okay if I remarry because everyone knows it's stepfathers who are really mean -- stepmothers are evil but only if you're a princess. And there's no logic, as all the parents out there know. This is their reality.
From WAW? Nary a peep about it. Which is cold, maternally speaking, even by her standards.
So I dunno. Maybe it's been MLC all along? Not that it makes any real difference, as it were, but if so it doesn't bode well for the future, eh? One month per year of marriage, right? That's looking at Fall 2010. Sheesh.
