Thanks, Cinco, I see your point of view. But I have to tell you that with my current meager experience with women's sexuality, I don't feel I have a good base for seeking a woman and building a deep sexual spiritual communion right away. It was already my total lack of first-hand experiencw with women's sexuality that made me blind to my wife's difficulties with sexual response in the first place. I think I'm little better off this time around because I've read some books on female sexuality, and have only recently experienced it a few times. The first time I saw a woman having an orgasm, it was a surreal experience, even kind of unsettling. On a very primal level, I just didn't expect that women were capable of this.
I think I need to have a number of "empty" and "shallow" sexual experiences just so that I can know what "deep spiritual" sex is like by contrast, no? Don't you have to know what empty but good physical sex is like before you can appreciate spiritual sexual communion?
Or maybe not. You're talking to a guy here who's not sure because he's got very few experiences. Even what you might call an "empty" sexual encounter seems pretty fulfilling to me at this point. If nothing else, it's deeply fulfilling as a novelty. First time ever seeing a woman in real life having an orgasm is something I will never forget. It's hard to think of that as empty and meaningless, no matter what the circumstances.
