H got home from the Poker game, and some friends were over, as the husband was setting up XBOX Live for S12 for me/us. I was in the kitchen cooking when they came, and I continued to do so.
Get this... this was SO yummy....!
H had deep-fried our turkey on Thanksgiving, so we saved the pea nut oil for today. I beer battered chicken breasts and jumbo shrimp, and I made home-made crab cakes (Sheesh! Crab is expensive! $25 a pound!) H deep-fried all of the above, and we had it w/the seven hundred side dish left overs from Thanksgiving. We were all standing and sitting around the kitchen eating, and H must have made 15 jokes, a few at my expense, but making sure I was ok w/the joke. (Why wouldn't I be? I'm an easy smile!)
So, the calling him out on a frustration, giving him space to separate from it/me, and do something enjoyable worked wonders.
Question and thought to ponder...
It was a year ago that I started DB'ing. Today, I think it was Gno that mentioned "taking the pressure off." For the love of God! I've been doing it for a year!!! (Today's type of situation doesn't happen very often. If I take any more pressure off...)
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
