There are a few books, one called No More Mr. Niceguy, and another called Hold Onto Your N.U.T.S -(I think)that you might want to check out, they come pretty highly recommended by men on these boards.
Agreed. I highly recommend them (especially since No More Mr. Nice Guy was written for and about me).
And they're not just good reads: they're work.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac