Pls help--confused and fearful

[Day by Day]

Can you explain the cake eating, caring and chasing you were talking about? I have been trying to be caring in spite of how hurt I am about learning of the A. I end emails with a Take care, have a nice day, have a safe trip, etc. I drop the email convo when he gets sarcastic.

I believe his Love Language is words of affirmation, so that's why I make sure that I thank him all the time for paying for things, getting things done, etc. But, I feel the OW has access to him everyday and is stroking his ego. Don't know how to out-do that. With the Harley site, I think his need is admiration...

I did the Monday meals for probably 6 wks and it didn't seem to have a positive or negative effect.

H did in the beginning tell me that I deserve to be happy and find someone who can love me better.

I just hate how H has moved on so quickly but now understand it's because of the OW. I feel like a ghost.

It's going to be hard to act all happy around H next time I see him after how deeply wounded my soul feels. He's pretty angry and it feels like he wants to use any opportunity to hurt me. Like he is blaming me for his sitch w OW.

His sister is on my FB, so I'm sure she keeps him updated on what I've been posting. I post about the fun I'm having and I keep adding new friends all the time. She makes comments on my page. Our daughter learned that he watches her own FB page like a hawk and says he is "stalking" her. She puts everything we do together on there.

Thanks again for keeping up with my thread!!