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[awest1217]

First she called H, and I only knew because I heard her voice. He said he didn't know it was her or he would have ignored it. He was on the phone with his mom talking about S when she beeped in and it didn't show the number because he was on the phone (mine does that sometimes too so I believe him, plus he knew it would make me mad and wouldn't do that because he ignored her a lot the past two weeks and even did more Friday night).

He said she knew that I couldn't get out and he was going to pay her back. S fits best in Old Navy jeans and they were super on sale so he said she thought since neither of us could get out with S getting the tubes that she would. I said I didn't care and that he was my son and I would take care of him. He is not her kid and she should not be taking care of him in any way. That is what started the R talk, and I brought up how he gave our S a kiss from him and her on Father's Day, and he said things have changed a lot, especially in the last month since he really has been trying to change and reading the books. He told me everything and didn't hide anything, which is a first. He kept saying how he wants to get home soon and divorce is not an option.

I am not going to be able to accept the jeans by any means and I have thought about writing her and telling her what is up, but that would ruin the progress with H. I just need to let her alone and focus on us. As long as H really does completely give her up, I need to give it up too. We talked a long time about that and how I can't stand her and all of it. H took it all in and never once came back at me or anything. He didn't defend himself or her. He just answered the questions and took in the "beating", although it was all about how insecure I feel and how I don't trust anything, so not really a "beating". A real change.