She must be seeing a lawyer...what now?

[Awoken]

Thank you Sandi. I read everything you wrote many times, over and over. It really helps.

The bomb was only 5 weeks ago, and we are still living in the same house. I slept in the guest room for a few days, but then moved back in the master bedroom and she promptly moved into the guestroom.

my plan (typing it out to help get it clear in my mind):

1) get W to sit down to talk
2) remain standing!
3) tell her that communication about the kids schedules should be between the two of us, and not through the kids. If I ever get the feeling that W is manipulating one of the kids, I'll take the matter to court and a judge can decide all visitations.
4) Then, I'll tell her that thought it over and I've decided it's in the best interest of S13 for us to stick to the original agreement.
5) If she argues, I'll stop her and tell her I'll only talk if she is willing to discuss it calmly. I'll leave the room if needed.
6) If she wants to talk about the future schedule, I can offer spring break to her and her family.

Of course, she may have already bought the tickets. I'm sure she has aligned her entire family against me.

Showdown either tonight after 10 when she gets back from the airport, or tomorrow night after work. I'll be sure to let you know how it works out. THANKS AGAIN.