Control is a big deal in how people cope with traumatic events, more precisely, their sense of control has a lot to do with how traumatic an event is preceived by someone. You have a 13 year old girl, what about W and D13 taking a self defense course or something like that? D13 would benefit, and it might be a constructive way for W to feel a little more in control, and a little less likely to view herself as a victim.
D wouldnt free her from responsibilty, in fact, a single mother (person, for that matter) has to be substantially MORE responsible and accountable. I think that I would try to figure out how she can be sort of exposed to that reality.
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
