Wait, what?! I missed that, I guess I need to go back to your beginning.

If it is a problem for her, which Im guessing if she brought it up to her therapists it is, then it needs to be addressed. "Normal" or not, when a behavior (or lack there of) interferes with your life, marriage, etc, it needs to be addressed.

Im not sure how to address this, shes not open to any counselling at all?

I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...