Sandi, another question. I've been out of the house 6 1/2 months now. About two months in we settled into an unwritten agreement that I'd pay her $485 every two weeks.

I've talked to a L who thinks that's generous. I do not want to get a D, but I'm also barely scraping by.

My lease is up at end of January. I'm in LRT now so I'm not calling, texting in any way other than than for kids stuff.

I know she's struggling a bit even though she earns more than I do AND gets the $485, but I want to kind of push things forward without actually filing. I want her to more accurately feel what the effect will be if we do D.

Is this a good idea or should I just sit and wait in limboland?

Me: 47, Ds 17-13, D final 6-11
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