The other old chestnut is that the first relationship after divorce is inevitably a rebound affair which is doomed to end painfully.
If anyone truly gives words like this as advice to anyone on this board, he or she should be ashamed of themselves.
I mean truly, what do these words say to those of us who have experienced divorce in our lives? Nothin more encouraging than being told that our first relationship will be a farce, regardless of how much time and effort we put in to it.
I am nearly 18 months in to a re-marriage after MY divorce. It would be incredibly cruel and hateful to share such a line with me, or EVEN WORSE, my wife.
No relationship is DOOMED to succeed OR fail.
Relationships are a result of the time and effort that we are willing to put in to them.
Unlike just about every politician in the world, I long ago chose to live my life based upon my own abilities, wits and desires RATHER than according to statistical probabilities.
The fact that a lot of people fail to learn from the mistakes of earlier relationships, or that they chose NOT to look at themselves and make changes for the better, BEFORE moving in to another relationship, does not mean that I've done the same. There are always things you can do to improve the odds, if that's what you're worried about.
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
