Coming up on One-Year of DB'ing...

[mindfull]

Thanks Greek and Gnosis!

I got this in time, and I think I combined both of your responses, and it appears to have worked!

So, H arrives back home w/our lunch. He's still in an okay mood.

His friend calls while we're getting lunch ready... asked him to come over to play Poker during the Bears game. There were a bunch of guys coming... (ON THE PHONE) H: "Friend, why didn't you give me some warning? We just got lunch, and I have some stuff to get done around the house today. Thanks for the invite, though."

````` EXPLANATION ON THE FOLLOWING: The friend inviting him over is a friend from long ago, who he barely talks to anymore. H used to really enjoy a friendly game of Poker, and hasn't done something w/friends (alone) in almost a year.

H tells me what the call was about. I tell him. "H, You know, I can tell something is bothering you. The boys and I are just hanging out, and S10 has bball tonight. We won't be making dinner until late anyhow. Instead of letting this something bother you, and make hurtful comments to me, why don't you give yourself some space, and have a little fun? That's a lot more fair, right?"

H... Didn't say much directly to me, or about it... Goes about his business getting lunch unpacked, etc... We go downstairs to eat in the pub, and watch a game that's on. He asks me to be his partner in a game of pool w/the boys (he NEVER asks me to join them), and I do (and make the winning shot btw!!). We are all smiling and having fun.

H leaves the room, and comes back w/his coat on. He says, "I think I will go for awhile. I'll pick up S10 from bball practice on my way home." Kiss and a hug.

I'll take Greeks advice next, and open up the conversation, probably middle of the week.

THANK YOU!