I went out on a date last night. WAS seemed to suspect this was the case. This seems to bother her. As I was getting ready she came in and said, somewhat sarcastically, “you look spiffy”. She then proceeded to say that what I was doing was “cheesy”. I reminded her that I had never asked anyone on a date until she told me there was no potential whatsoever for reconciliation. She denied.
This morning WAS came into room. She said there’s something she wanted to say in advance of tomorrow’s meeting with lawyers. She said that she loved me and had given it her all but that I didn’t treat her well (I regard part of this as true and part as rewriting history....we both tended to be unkind to one another). She didn’t get into the OM issue but said she had been loyal. I observed that she gave up on marriage. She referred to needing to close this door. She said that if she stayed it wouldn’t be long until I referred to the legal costs incurred as a result of her decision (to date I estimate we have collectively spent $40,000 and very little has happened) or to OM (I confess to having problems keeping my cracks to myself about how quickly she ended up in the arms of OM professing her love). She seems to think that I’m not accepting responsibility. I advised that she makes it easy as I’m not prepared to remain in marriage with someone who gave up and isn’t prepared to work.
