Mindfull, "Perfectly fine and conversational" sounds like "Gee, I acted like an a$$. Let me smooth it over."
So one thing Coach tells me is that if there is something bothering me, it is my responsibility to bring it up. And I do that...now. Didn't used to. Used to stuff. At any rate, I look for a good time to say "Hey there, Coach..."
What would happen if you modeled for him? "Hey H, something is bothering me and it's my responsibility to let you know, rather that stuffing it until I cannot talk reasonably about it. When you _______________________, I feel ________________________. It would help me and I could address your concerns much better if you talked to me rather than letting resentment/anger build up in your delivery." Or something like that.
What d'ya think? Greek
Me45 H46 T25 M22 S21 & 19 D13 Separated and filed 8/08 Moved home 11/08