Gardener... it sounds to me like you handled yourself with dignity in the face of a very difficult situation. We all have to make spur of the moment judgement calls in our sitches... some would agree with our choices, some would not. The point is, you clearly seem to have a sense of what you feel is best in your sitch for various reasons, and you seem to have an inner strength and resolve to do what you need to do for you.
Venting here is good, healthy and... thank God... safe. When we live in sitches where emotional safety has been taken from us, that is so important.
Hope today is a better day for you and you are feeling strong, confident and at peace with where you are going from here.
