the first relationship after divorce is inevitably a rebound affair which is doomed to end painfully.
I can both deny and support that line. My STBXW was my first woman after a longerm R broke up. I got married had 2 kids. But...here I am with an MLC issue-loaded STBXW heading to a D trial.
IMO, once your divorced, you need to kiss a lot of frogs (er..not meaning that literally). You need to go out and experience other people and see what's out there. I think jumping into the first person you meet and committing is risky. No matter how hard we try, our old 'radar beams' tend to lock on what we just left.
I think the answer is to trust your 'new wisdom'. Review all those new sticky Yellow Post-It notes that are now posted up in your mind. Every new encounter should NOT be looked at as a possible 'new H', but, a new experience in meeting another person....a new exchange of ideas and thoughts...an exploration of different personalities.
Risk...that is what life is about. Change. If you live your new life in fear, you will live in a black hole. Don't be like Tom Cruise in Top Gun...afraid to bring that aircraft in for a landing. Take hold of the stick (pardon the pun) and bring 'er in.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
