But there is still soooooo much I want to say, that I wish saying would snap him out of it.
I know. It won't though. Something that helpoed me was to write letters (I have not and had no intention of giving to him). It helped me get it some of it out of my system. It isn't quite the same, but interestingly there have been 2 occasions where the clarity the letters gave me was really helpful b/c I was actually able to say some things.
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Lately it has been just to tell him to stop his tantrum already and face life and do something about his issues instead of running and trying to mask them.
It sounds like you've said this on more than one accasion. He heard you. Now, stop It sounds like you're "mothering" him. If he starts in try excusing yourself and leaving or one of my favorites is to say "wow, it sounds like it really sucks to be you. I'm sorry."
My H doesn't vent to me, but if yours does and you are willing to listen, you could invite that.
Thanksgiving was good. Lots of food and games.
How is everything going for you today? Is he in grump mode?
