Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[SoldierDad]

Well, she hasn't e-mailed or called back. I thought she would continue to make some sort of attempt to get me to acknowledge what she wrote, but nothing. Maybe she really does want a D, and this really doesn't bother her. Usually, when we fought about money, she would push my buttons, and keep digging at me in order to get her way, but not this time. Maybe I'm reading too much into this. I dunno.

[Super Girl]

SD, stop worrying about what she is doing and thinking right now. I know how hard it is to do, but it really just makes things worse for you. Focus your yourself right now. Use your energy to plan fun stuff for you and your boys.

[SoldierDad]

Sad Girl, you are right. That is one of the things I struggle with-think it is a control thing. I have much work to do, and many things to work on. I need to get busy, and stop worrying about things that I can't control-her. Thanks for the swift kick.

[Virtually_Handsome]

To answer your question, you have ten minutes to edit or delete posts. After that the only way is to have a moderator do it, obviously you need a pretty good reason for that.

[SoldierDad]

Thanks VH. I think I am good. Don't think she would come here to look for help. Have a great day.

[SoldierDad]

Ok, I have much work to do. Thank you all for guiding me over this bumpy emotional road. I am working on my boundaries, and detachment, and not worrying about what she is doing, as well as working on myself. Are there any other things I can work on, any helpful insight on what I am going through/going to go through? I really want to put the work in, as I know in the long run, I will be a better person for it. If anyone has any suggestions-I am open to anything. Please keep in mind, I am deployed and books aren't readily available. However, I will be able to purchase books in about 2 weeks. Thanks to everyone, I am truly blessed to have all of you helping me, and everyone else here.

[Greek]

Ok, I have much work to do. I really want to put the work in, as I know in the long run, I will be a better person for it.

Keep that in focus, SD. She may stay in the M, she may not. Whatever she does, there YOU are. Work to be in the sweet spot which is no matter what she does, you are fine. You'd like to keep your family and marriage together and make it better, but is she won't participate and contribute, you are moving forward in life.

Don't react to her.

Keep coming here.

Cheers ~
Greek

[bluerain]

SD, your bank might have the trucks tag number, or the insurance company most likely would. Maybe you should just call and have it towed from the house to the base, then she wont have to worry her pretty little head about it.

I also think that you have been given some great advice about how to respond so far. And I agree that if she had a real lawyer that was all hers, they would be telling her to not fly off the handle and to let them be the ones to contact you. I know that the WorkLife paid for me to have 4 hours with a lawyer, but that didnt make them MY lawyer.

[Greek]

Maybe you should just call and have it towed from the house to the base, then she wont have to worry her pretty little head about it.

OMG! Love this idea! Taking back control!
Greek

[SoldierDad]

All, I am looking for some helpful threads, or advice, that can better prepare me for my impending 2 week visit. Anything is greatly appreciated.

Ok, I have much work to do. Thank you all for guiding me over this bumpy emotional road. I am working on my boundaries, and detachment, and not worrying about what she is doing, as well as working on myself. Are there any other things I can work on, any helpful insight on what I am going through/going to go through? I really want to put the work in, as I know in the long run, I will be a better person for it. If anyone has any suggestions-I am open to anything. Please keep in mind, I am deployed and books aren't readily available. However, I will be able to purchase books in about 2 weeks. Thanks to everyone, I am truly blessed to have all of you helping me, and everyone else here.