Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[SoldierDad]

THIS, is my greatest fear. That, and her somehow shielding me from the boys. That will be the only way she can hurt me, since I have taken over the bills. The really difficult part for me will be to NOT concentrate on what SHE is doing. She is going to do things to push my buttons, and try to get a rise out of me. My W is confrontational, and is so used to me giving in. I am more worried about what damage she is going to inflict on the boys, through me.

I guess my biggest concern for you on your two week visit home is that she will bait your into losing your cool. You are sitting on so many questions, wrapped in emotion, fear - and all of this is understandable. You must be to the brim with anticipation of how this thing is going to go - compacted into such a little bit of time - lots of pressure. That's why it's good for you to sort of rehearse all of this in your head and talk it out here with us. But remember that the rehearsal is your parts ONLY. You will not be able to manage what she does. Only what you do.

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