feel like giving up - talk to me!

[Gnosis]

Hey L, I thought we lost you there. While you were away I posted some background in my thread, followed by a post I called The Four Unholy Words. It may give you an idea of what is going on with him. Let me know what you think in my thread.

I know you're trying L and I can relate to how extremely frustrating this is. Patience is the one of most difficult things we've ever needed to master.

About resentment... yeah... I know. This is because you're not seeing results and you feel whatever you're doing is pushing him further away. For what it's worth, he's feeling the same thing - and both your resentments are escalating and making things worse.

I don't know how much more I can take

Here's something you don't want to hear... "You can take a heck of a lot more."

I'm not very good at this.

Nobody is. We all make mistakes. It's how we learn from them and commit to never repeating them that makes us get better.

Does he really think this is ok?

No, and he knows it. He just isn't sure on how to fix it.

I have turned into piece of furniture - just here and you walk right past it.

No you haven't. He is avoiding you because he fears talking to you will meet with more of your disapproval.

I always say you fight for something good - but is this really good?

Yes it is or else you wouldn't be here.

a spouse who treats you like crap? maybe all of us need to rethink this...

I hear your resentment L and I can't blame you. I'm not going to answer this. People differ with how much they can take and how much they're prepared to put up with... until they snap and can take no more.