Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[SoldierDad]

Antlers, so much good info. All of you are such wonderful people. I cant thank you enough for helping an old Soldier and his personal problems.

[mindfull]

SoldierDad - I was just going to offer what Greek said. I can't believe anyone in Airport Authority wouldn't be able to help. I also like the simple, short reply... LATER. She will be logging on and checking and checking and checking... Just to see what you are going to say. WAIT. Also, she must have some attorney that didn't consult her on spewing venom regarding issues he/she should be handling.

Lastly, I wouldn't be too concerned with her ability to mess w/you, and/or you "losing this battle against her." She can't even put a sentence together correctly! She's not brilliant!

You have to be anxious. Just try and focus on the boys, and their stability.

Gosh, you need a hug!

[Greek]

Don't worry about the truck. Do what you can do from where you are. Don't ask her for keys or plate numbers or anything. Just do what you can do and that's it. Worst case - you call a cab and get home that way. No biggee.

Greek

[Super Girl]

I'm sure you heard this, but this is the best place you don't want to be.

[SoldierDad]

Sadgirl, I agree 1000% I only wish I would of found you all a long time ago. This is the typical pattern my W does. It is EXACTLY what she has always done. And I always let her. Not anymore. Ok, so sit on the reply-the e-mail and then one word-NOTED. Is there anything else I should do? As far as the attorney, she told me she applied for and got, Legal-Aid, due to her income. Not sure what advice they gave her, but from the sound of it, NOT TOO GOOD!!! I will have to send the e-mail to her work address as she will be at work tomorrow.

Also, still concerned about truck, and seeing my boys. She just might try to shield me from them. Not sure though. I have much to do.

[Greek]

No. Just respond to the email address from whence it came. Don't worry, pal. She'll be looking for it. Don't send it to work.

You've got a little time on your hands now and need to do something so....get online and start researching lawyers in your area. Use the 'soldier abroad' story ... we're all so appreciative of what you do, no way a lawyer won't break his/her neck to help YOU out. Contact a few of them by email or skype if you can and get a feel for who to see when you get home. Are y'all in east TX by any chance????? You don't have to say - but we're pretty close to there and may know a lawyer or two. (Be careful with identifying info when you answer this question. I think we're not supposed to do that kind of thing. Write in "code" )

Greek

[SoldierDad]

Greek, I am in FAR West Texas. I will contact some more attorneys. I contacted one through e-mail, but a friend gave me another firms name. I also, have to get busy calling all my accounts and getting the account numbers, and get them set up via billpay. I am gonna be busy tomorrow!!! Something else, I just re-read her e-mail. It sounds, well, desperate. She threw out all her cards-the truck, my career, the boys. It all just reads as pathetic-reaching for straws-desperate. I am going to go back and edit that post to remove key things in it.

[SoldierDad]

Ok, can't figure out how to edit old posts-anyone?

[SoldierDad]

Anyone know how to go back and remove a post, or edit it? Thanks.

[SoldierDad]

THIS, is my greatest fear. That, and her somehow shielding me from the boys. That will be the only way she can hurt me, since I have taken over the bills. The really difficult part for me will be to NOT concentrate on what SHE is doing. She is going to do things to push my buttons, and try to get a rise out of me. My W is confrontational, and is so used to me giving in. I am more worried about what damage she is going to inflict on the boys, through me.

I guess my biggest concern for you on your two week visit home is that she will bait your into losing your cool. You are sitting on so many questions, wrapped in emotion, fear - and all of this is understandable. You must be to the brim with anticipation of how this thing is going to go - compacted into such a little bit of time - lots of pressure. That's why it's good for you to sort of rehearse all of this in your head and talk it out here with us. But remember that the rehearsal is your parts ONLY. You will not be able to manage what she does. Only what you do.

Greek