With the caveat thatI'm in no position to dispense directions ... dude, detach already!

You've finally decided to GAL for yourself? That's great, since it means all along you were getting sidetracked instead of a life.

"Now all you need to do is MAKE her come to the decision"? And you will not follow your W's plan by now not giving her space? Did I read you correctly?

You can't make her do anything. You can decide to do your best to save the M, that's it. And if you are going to pursue your W after all this time ...

I applaud your enthusiaism and commitment to the M. But I really have no clue what you're trying to do here ...


Me 42
W 39
Married: 11 Jan 1998, T: Since 1992
First Bomb: Sep 2007
Confirmed A/OM: 4 Nov 2007
Kids: D10, S5
Reconciled and together again after (alot of) time and heartbreak.
3rd kid, S, born 2 Jan 2010.