This past year has been a time of growth for me, with being more independent socially in the dance community, finding a church that is helping me move closer to God (love), and enjoying the companionship of a dog. As my thread title suggests, the soil is fertile for my personal life to grow wonderful things. CL
Darn you CL..We are on the same page totally I could have written what you wrote. I too have seen myself grow. In the beginning I did not realize it but I WAS trying to change my wife. Then with the help of someone here I finely did let go and started taking care of myself. And with that my wife did start to change on HER own. My independence did help me grow. Now I am not into dance classes but I do love to go dancing. (Even though my buddy makes fun of the way I dance because I only have one leg) but I have learned again that that is only because of his own insecurities about himself. As for church I think the devil has been winning in that area. I have prayed and have gone to church but not as much as I would like. Now I don’t know if you were serous about the dog but hey I do love my dog. She gives me the unconditional love I do need... I have to admit if my wife did want to call it quits I would not stop her. In fact that would be the easy way out of this. And I can not say I will hang on forever but…..I feel I too have worked on this “garden” along time to not at least plant some seeds and see what happens...
Only you know how much you can handle Take care my friend ...My first date with my wife is Dec 12th. That means dancing, laughing and maybe planting a seed……
Doc
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
